All That Glitters

29 Dec


I thought it was fitting to have “glitter” in the title seeing as New Year’s Eve is less than a week away! However, this week’s topic has very little to do with champagne toasts and sequin dresses, and more to do with the old saying “not all that glitters is gold.”

I hear a lot of my girlfriends whine about how they can’t find a good guy like their friend _______ did or that their man isn’t as sweet as other people’s boyfriends. It’s easy to be envious of somebody else’s relationship when you’re on the outside looking in.

Throughout my infamous relationships over the past several years, I have been known to keep mum about the intimate details with my significant others and have always been selective of who I open up to—and because of this, some assumed I had the “perfect relationship”… or at least, it seemed that way. But the truth of the matter is that NO relationship is perfect.

A great example of what I’m talking about is the roller coaster affair I had with a college football player in 2008. I won’t name names because this isn’t “Confessions of a Video Vixen” and I’m not looking to out anyone. This 6’4” star athlete seemed like the holy grail of boyfriends—tall, dark and handsome. He was a smooth-talking beautiful liar. The type of guy who closed down stadiums on Valentine’s Day to have a candlelit dinner with me on the 50-yard line… and then sleep with my friend the next day. He also went on to cheat on me another 3 times—all of which I found out about in one night. Oh, the magic of going through one’s cell phone. All the while, many girls were jealous of the glitz and glamour of being an athlete’s #1 girl. Little did they know that I was his number one… just not his only.


There was also the Los Angeles real estate agent who, ironically on another Valentine’s Day, had me open a little box that held a set of keys to a luxury apartment in it. He dressed sharp to look the part, he faked it to play the part, while unbeknownst to me, was going through major financial woes and alcoholism. My girlfriends would always ask me if he had a brother who was just as perfect as he was. I would laugh it off modestly as I went back to our loft to find hidden bottles of brandy stashed away in the most random nooks.

Before depressing you any further, I’ll just cut to the chase– being jealous of your girlfriend’s seemingly “perfect” relationship is foolish. Every relationship, successful or not, is tough work. Getting down on yourself for not having a flawless boyfriend is dumb because HE DOESN’T EXIST.

So, here a few things to take away from this post:

-Forget what you think you know about anyone’s relationship. Unless you know firsthand by being in the relationship, you don’t know s***.
-Stop being jealous! Girls these days are insanely insecure and constantly compare themselves to others. Like my mother always tells me, there will always be someone prettier than you, smarter than you, richer than you, and with a better boyfriend. Deal with it.

-Even if your girlfriend actually does have an incredible man in her life, be happy for her! It says a lot about one’s character when they are able to celebrate a friend’s happiness regardless of their own.



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2 Responses to “All That Glitters”

  1. Chanel Hason December 29, 2012 at 3:13 am #

    Beautifully said Joyce!

  2. redpilloutlaw December 30, 2012 at 12:34 pm #

    You’re completely right. Interesting post.

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